Jessica Kolibas wrote:
Honestly, I do not find it easy in any way, shape or form to see things they way they are. I am the one who will wonder what else is out there and what is the next best thing. I'm so aware that this is a horrible way to be, but I just haven't been able to modify it. Since losing my brother, it's almost impossible for me to feel that I can feel safe and just live. We were both 25 when he was killed. Life just, well, stops. Nothing moves from that point. It needs to and it should and it obviously has, but I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop or the other family member to leave suddenly. This book has some amazing paragraphs and then it starts talking about music, which makes me frustrated, but that's how the author compares things in life. One of the sayings I can say I utterly hate is "it is what it is." I honestly want to throw a shoe when I hear that stupid phrase. No, it doesn't have to be "it is what it is" and I'm sick of people being so "content' with their situations. I don't want to sound rude or envious, but really, is that phrase necessary? Just sounding off and ranting. I'm done now.
Ken Morris wrote:
First, I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. I can’t imagine how difficult that would be. Second, I know what you mean when the subject of music continues to come up in the book. It frustrates me too. Although I am getting more used to it and getting more out of it with each reference. The story about the musician who couldn’t make it to rehearsal made an impression on me. I don’t remember what chapter it was in but it all came back to taking responsibility for everything in your life. Even when something isn’t your fault. It sounds like a tough pill to swallow. I also have a sore spot for the saying “it is what it is.” To me that is a saying for someone who has given up on what ever is being discussed. If you ask someone a question and their response is “it is what it is,” there is a problem.